It seems such a passive word for a passive role.
Let's consider how it is instead a position of power.
First, as a bystander, I can observe what is happening which nobody else sees, because nobody else is standing exactly where I am. Nobody else has my mix of genes and history and all of what makes me who I am and so I see uniquely.
As bystanders each of us has power we often do not grasp. It is of the moment. We can plan, and prepare so that we are ready to act, intervene if necessary; build up potential energy. While remaining polite, I can step in to help, intervene, participate, engage. I can ACT.
Pro-tip: run this program (courtesy of the Linuxchix:
1. be polite
2. be helpful
Boom! You have a team.
Supporting free software is one of the things I do. Right now is a great time to help support KDE.
KDE Powers You - You Can Power KDE, Too!