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In India, where they live, the resources all seem stacked against her. I've tried to help, and hope you will too.
Himanshu says, Hi, I recently started an online crowd funding campaign to help my mother with legal funds who is in the middle of divorce and domestic violence case.
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Showing posts with label kindness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label kindness. Show all posts
Sunday, August 21, 2016
Monday, June 2, 2014
Advice
I try never to give advice unless I'm asked. However, tonight I thought I would offer the world the advice I give myself. This is probably not what I would have advised when I was younger, but I wish I had, every day.
Find joy and beauty everywhere, every day, every moment. It is around you; learn to see it.
Love yourself, and treat yourself with kindness.
Breathe deeply, and drink lots of water.
Love with an open heart, and care for those who love you back.
Spend no time and energy on those who pull you down, even family and "friends."
Value your opponents; they keep you honest, and learning. Collaborate with them if possible.
Make your bed every morning. Excuses are boring!
Brush and floss every tooth you want to keep. Get regular checkups, and follow the expert's advice.
Listen twice as much as you talk. That's why you have two ears, and only one mouth.
If you mess it up, clean up the mess. NOW.
Stay active, and keep challenging yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially.
Do something scary as often as you dare. Travel! Make friends with strangers!
Spend your time and energy on the important, rather than being distracted by the urgent.
If you are unhappy, do something kind for someone else, secretly if possible.
Laugh, sing and dance as often as you can. Celebrate!
Find joy and beauty everywhere, every day, every moment. It is around you; learn to see it.
Love yourself, and treat yourself with kindness.
Breathe deeply, and drink lots of water.
Love with an open heart, and care for those who love you back.
Spend no time and energy on those who pull you down, even family and "friends."
Value your opponents; they keep you honest, and learning. Collaborate with them if possible.
Make your bed every morning. Excuses are boring!
Brush and floss every tooth you want to keep. Get regular checkups, and follow the expert's advice.
Listen twice as much as you talk. That's why you have two ears, and only one mouth.
If you mess it up, clean up the mess. NOW.
Stay active, and keep challenging yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially.
Do something scary as often as you dare. Travel! Make friends with strangers!
Spend your time and energy on the important, rather than being distracted by the urgent.
If you are unhappy, do something kind for someone else, secretly if possible.
Laugh, sing and dance as often as you can. Celebrate!
Thursday, May 29, 2014
Thank you, Jerry Seinfeld
Seinfeld has a stand-up routine about how your party self wants to be wild and crazy, because the person who will suffer the hangover is "Morning Guy." This was how I thought and why I procrastinated for most of my life. Eventually I figured out that my Self today and my Self tomorrow -- same Self.
I value kindness, and try to be kind and thoughtful to others. So why not be kind to my Self too? In my effort to make life more peaceful and happy, I've gradually started to be kinder to my future self, and have reduced procrastination quite a bit. Along the way, I've discovered how much easier it is to just do a small task when I notice it needs doing, rather than putting it off. My attitude about those little tasks has changed too, and they hardly seem like work. Instead, they feel like being kind to my Self.
This all seems like a virtuous circle, since doing small tasks immediately keeps life simple and clean, and living in a clean, calm environment makes it easier to do the work to keep things up. This seems to be valuable everywhere; in the daily schedule, around the house, at work, in relationships.
Perhaps it was easier to fall into this way of working since I've been started some practices like making cold-brew coffee and fermented foods, both of which need to be started hours or days before they are ready to consume. Every time I finish preparing a new batch, I feel like I'm 'paying it forward' to my future self. The work we've been doing on our house also helps in a major way.
For those who call this kindness "selfishness," consider the so-called Golden Rule, restated by Jesus as love your neighbor as you love yourself. That final phrase says it all; self-care is at the core of love.
And it all counts.
Anyone who has flown in a jetliner, has heard the advice: If you are traveling with someone, and the oxygen masks drop, do not help them put on their masks first. Put on your own mask, then help others!
Many of the ideas that have helped me get to this place come from unfuckyourhabitat.tumblr.com which is invaluable. It is one thing to give yourself credit for the progress you make, but it is amazing to have a team of people cheering you on!
I value kindness, and try to be kind and thoughtful to others. So why not be kind to my Self too? In my effort to make life more peaceful and happy, I've gradually started to be kinder to my future self, and have reduced procrastination quite a bit. Along the way, I've discovered how much easier it is to just do a small task when I notice it needs doing, rather than putting it off. My attitude about those little tasks has changed too, and they hardly seem like work. Instead, they feel like being kind to my Self.
This all seems like a virtuous circle, since doing small tasks immediately keeps life simple and clean, and living in a clean, calm environment makes it easier to do the work to keep things up. This seems to be valuable everywhere; in the daily schedule, around the house, at work, in relationships.
Perhaps it was easier to fall into this way of working since I've been started some practices like making cold-brew coffee and fermented foods, both of which need to be started hours or days before they are ready to consume. Every time I finish preparing a new batch, I feel like I'm 'paying it forward' to my future self. The work we've been doing on our house also helps in a major way.
For those who call this kindness "selfishness," consider the so-called Golden Rule, restated by Jesus as love your neighbor as you love yourself. That final phrase says it all; self-care is at the core of love.
And it all counts.
- Making your bed when you get up, counts.
- Brushing and flossing your teeth, counts.
- Eating breakfast, counts.
- Washing up, counts.
- Making a meeting on time, counts.
- Writing a thoughtful email, counts.
- Helping someone in IRC, counts.
- Eating vegetables or fruit instead of junk food, counts.
- Drinking water instead of a sugary beverage, counts.
- Walking up a flight of stairs instead of taking the elevator, counts.
- Picking up a bit of trash, counts.
- Getting to bed in time to have a full night's sleep, counts.
- Writing a blog post, counts!
Anyone who has flown in a jetliner, has heard the advice: If you are traveling with someone, and the oxygen masks drop, do not help them put on their masks first. Put on your own mask, then help others!
Many of the ideas that have helped me get to this place come from unfuckyourhabitat.tumblr.com which is invaluable. It is one thing to give yourself credit for the progress you make, but it is amazing to have a team of people cheering you on!
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